‘The things you believe in are the baggage you carry with you in your life. The true sage believes in nothing, other than the sacredness of all things. He lives in spontaneity of energy. He defends nothing nor judges anything. His world is eternal and infinite, he sees beauty in all things and he accepts the ways of man, including restriction and strife.’ Stuart Wilde
I’m often asked in the library to request The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. The book outlines the secrets of manifestation. In learning these ‘so-called’ secrets one learns how to get what one wants out of life. The documentary of the same name, which followed the book, features a number of individuals who have used these ‘secrets’ to create successful lives of affluence. Without a doubt these secrets—these specific guidelines—work. But one could argue that when we use these guidelines to get what we want out of life, the ego is at work.
There is another way. It could be called the path of surrender. The result is also ‘success’. But the difference is that instead of getting what we want out of life, we allow ‘Life’ to get what she wants out of us. Invariably this will include a path of service.
This is precisely what is described by Michael A. Singer in his new book, The Surrender Experiment.
How do we know when an action is ego-driven? Such actions come from a place of wanting, of desire, and a subconscious belief that we are lacking something that is intrinsic to our happiness. Underlying ego-driven desires are deep-seated fears.
We’ll know our actions are ego-centric when we treat the cleaner differently than we treat the CEO.
We’ll know our actions are ego-centric when our perceived needs supersede those of others.
We’ll know our actions are life-driven when we treat others as we would have others treat us. If this sounds like the ‘Golden Rule’ it is because that is precisely what it is.
You’ve heard the expression: That which we resist persists. What Mickey Singer discovered and what he describes eloquently in The Surrender Experiment was: that which the voice inside his head resisted was precisely what life wanted him to do. And when he did that which life asked of him, magic happened. The cogs in the universal wheel lined up and took him in directions he could not have foreseen.
Sound familiar? It has happened to all of us. When the will fails to get that which we seek, and we finally surrender, suddenly everything falls into place. We still have to work for it, but it’s as if an unseen force is assisting us and the work flows easily and naturally.
Mickey Singer learned how to follow the invisible into the unknown. As he describes in The Surrender Experiment: ‘. . . I could see that the practice of surrender was actually done in two, very distinct steps: first, you let go of the personal reactions of like and dislike that form inside your mind and heart; and, second, with the resultant sense of clarity, you simply look to see what is being asked of you by the situation unfolding in front of you.’ In simpler terms, one could say that to surrender is to let go and let God.
The Surrender Experiment is a truly inspiring read.
Radio host, librarian, inspirational speaker and health educator John Haines is the author of In Search of Simplicity: A True Story that Changes Lives andBeyond the Search, books to lift the spirit and touch the heart. See http://www.JohnHainesBooks.wordpress.com In Search of Simplicity is now available as an eBook here.
“In Search of Simplicity is a unique and awe-inspiring way to re-visit and even answer some of the gnawing questions we all intrinsically have about the meaning of life and our true, individual purpose on the planet. I love this book.”
Barbara Cronin, Circles of Light. For the complete review visit:http://www.circlesoflight.com/blog/in-search-of-simplicity/
“In Search of Simplicity is one of those rare literary jewels with the ability to completely and simultaneously ingratiate itself into the mind, heart and soul of the reader.”
Heather Slocumb, Apex Reviews
“The author’s experiments and experiences working with nature simply amaze. . . . Beyond the Search is a treasure trove for those who enjoy planting and reaping as it seems nature intended, with respect for each animal and insect as belonging on the planet and therefore deserving of honour.”
Theresa Sjoquist on Suite 101