I’ve been asked to make a post to help promote a new book by best-selling author Eldon Taylor called Choices and Illusions. The following is a question and answer session with Eldon Taylor about his new book. I would agree with Eldon that it is never too late to change negative and conflicting self talk into positive action. You can create the life you truly dream of.

1. There are so many self-help books in the market, what makes this one different?

It is a well known fact that while most people can read an inspirational book, or attend a motivational seminar, however excited they are about what they have learned and however determined they are to implement the changes to improve their lives, that the vast majority of them will not. For the past 30 years, I have researched the mind, consciousness, self-image, decision making and so forth. I have learned much about the real reasons for our resistance to change and I have discovered a few solutions.  Even if you never buy another self help product, this book will fundamentally change you.  It basically turns the old models of success upside down and shows you not only what true success is, but how you can achieve it for yourself, right now.

bookcover_smaller2. Choices and Illusions is an interesting title.  What does it mean?

It will probably surprise you to know that most of the choices you make each and every day really are not your own. They are choices that have been given to you through your upbringing, from your parents, friends, schools and so on. You may have dreams and aspirations, but you can never achieve them while your subconscious mind has conflicting desires. It is only by taking charge of our own choices, by reversing the negative programming that most of us receive, that we can ever truly find ourselves.  And when it comes to negative programming, they say that for every positive input we receive, we also receive 90 bits of negative.  On top of that, this negative input is much more powerful than the positive. When it really comes down to it, when we truly know who we are, then many choices just become a mute point.

3. Who do you think will benefit the most from your book, the veteran of self-help or the total beginner?

Quite honestly everyone will gain from reading this book.  The knowledge you gain will empower you to reach your goals, whatever your background.  I have seen these techniques work with people from all walks of life, from business executives to young house wives, from Olympic athletes to prison inmates, from young children to those in their golden years. If all you want to do is lose some weight, this book will show you how. If you want to do better in relationships, find you perfect partner, be successful in business, have better health, age more gracefully, be better at sports, or even get closer to God, Choices and Illusions will show you how to do it because it really does reach the very core of the problems all of us face.

4. Tell us a little more about yourself.  What are your qualifications and how did you learn of the techniques you teach?

I have the usual qualifications, doctorates in both psychology and metaphysics, but more importantly, I am a pragmatist. I am only interested in what works. My approach is very scientific and once I had put together the basic techniques for my programs, I needed proof that they worked. My programs have been researched by numerous independent universities and institutions around the world and been demonstrated effective. Researchers at Stanford have tested my program for alleviating exam anxiety and found positive results. At Colorado State University they looked at depression, at Bremen University in Germany they looked at weight loss and I could go on and on, but you can find all of these details in my book. I was actually a criminologist before I decided to focus my efforts on personal empowerment.  My reasons for beginning my exploration in this area was because I was administering lie detection tests and I needed a way to reduce anxiety in the innocent person who was just afraid of the test itself, and heightening anxiety in the criminal. However, once I saw the true potential behind these techniques, I decided to bring it to a much larger audience.

EldonTaylor_photo20135.  What is the “no-don’t syndrome” and the “subtraction game.”

We are all brought up hearing the ‘no-don’ts’ – no, don’t do this or no, you can’t do that.  We hear it from our parents, our peers, those in authority and those we care about.  All of these ‘no-don’t’  teach us limitations to what we can do or be. This is a real problem because unless you believe you are capable of achieving a goal, then the likelihood is great that you will not achieve it.

The ‘subtraction game’ is basically a coping mechanism we have for the limited beliefs we have about ourselves. If we do not think highly of ourselves, then by thinking less of others, we can feel better because we are not at the bottom of the pile. So if I am not good at something, I will feel better when I focus on how much worse most other people are.

6. You talk a lot about forgiveness in Choices and Illusions.  Why do you think this is so important?

It really comes down to self-responsibility. When you are blaming someone else, or even if you are blaming yourself, then you are holding on to the past. It is only by forgiving and letting go that you can move on. It is only by accepting full responsibility for everything in your life that you can find a way to fix it.  After all, if your problems are someone else’s fault, there is nothing you can do about it. I actually discovered the significance of this with my work in the prison system. The criminal always has an excuse.  He basically believes that if you and I had been in his situation, then we would have turned out the same. The fact is, this is simply not true. Self-responsibility and forgiveness go hand in hand.

7. What do you think is the most important teaching in Choices and Illusions?

Most people believe that self-help and self-improvement is about rags to riches, failure to success, and so forth, when indeed it is the beginning of a journey into self- discovery. True success is when you can put your head on your pillow at night and feel good about who you are and what you have achieved. Inside every human being is an eternal truth and a life purpose. Using our mind power is simply starting the engine on that journey of self-discovery and highest self-actualization.

8.  One of the chapters in Choices and Illusions is, Mind is not a Local Event.  What does that mean?

Precisely that.  Most people think of the mind as somehow only being directly connected to the organ brain but its powers extend way beyond the physical. Work has been done that showed group meditation for peace resulted in a drop in crime rates, that there is evidence for life after death, that psychic phenomena are real, and there are a number of scientists today who are gathering even more evidence. This becomes important in self help because when you fine tune the power of your own mind, so many more things are possible.  Whole new worlds open up for you. Choices and Illusions is not supposed to be the be all and end all, it is merely a starting point of a wonderful journey. What this book does do though, is empower you to truly help yourself.  It frees you from the old ties and enables you to truly live freely, experiencing the life that you truly want.

9.  If you could sum up one factor that prevents people from being successful, what would that be?

Most people hold beliefs that are mutually exclusive.  For example, Money is the source of all evil and I want to be rich; Thank God it’s Friday and I want a successful career. When you inner beliefs are not in line with your stated goals, then success cannot follow.  Self sabotaging methods will come into play.  The classical example is the opera singer who loses her voice, or the runner who sprains an ankle.  I have given seminars around the world and my standard question is, who wants to make a million dollars this year.  Most people put up their hands.  Then I instruct them to say to themselves, “I will make a million dollars this year.” It only takes a few seconds before you see people smiling or even laughing.  The common thoughts that go through people’s minds are things like, “Yeah, and pigs will fly,” or “I don’t think I would make a good bank robber.”  Another example is the person who wants to be successful in their career but is terrified of public speaking.  This fear of public speaking is eventually going to kick in and they will not perform their best when put to the test that could mean the big career promotion.

10. You also state that ‘it is never too late.’ Do you really believe that?

Yes, most definitely. There was a time in my life that I was definitely not the nicest person.  Most people around me in those days would be surprised at what I am teaching today. There was a time in my life that I thought it was too late for me. But my life has changed.  Today I see my work as having a much greater value. I know for a fact that everyone can experience a life that brings them a sense of satisfaction and it only takes a few small changes.

Radio host, librarian, inspirational speaker and health educator John Haines is the author of In Search of Simplicity: A True Story that Changes Lives and Beyond the Search, books to lift the spirit and touch the heart. See http://www.JohnHainesBooks.com

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